Okay, Mommy's.. I need your advice!

I have been having issues with my son for several months now, He turned 2 in November. His nickname is "Terrorist." He is the definition of handful!!! I honestly think that him acting out the way he does isn't "just his age" or "he's just being a boy" which I have heard both more times than I can count. He is nothing like my girls were at his age. He is so busy, never still. Constantly touching something, going through something (bags, cabinets, boxes..) trying to tear up or break everything in his path. The only way I can get him to eat is to let him pack it around because he can't sit still long enough to finish a meal. He is always running into walls or furniture, tripping over things laying in floor. You can be trying to talk to him & he just tunes you out like he's not even hearing what you saying. He is hard to get to sleep and once he is asleep it's rare that he will sleep through the night. Sometimes, when he wakes, he cries for no reason, nothing suits, then falls back to sleep like he was never really 'awake' to begin with. Taking him into a store is by far the hardest challenge with him. He seems so overwhelmed by so much stuff in one place. Constantly grabbing things off the shelves, wont ride in the cart, throws tantrums to get down and if I let him down he runs off. While at home he throws toys or picture frames across the room for no apparent reason.

I have had so many people tell me it's just his age and he will grow out of it. They think the mean & mischievous things that he does is funny! Which it can be funny at times, but it can also be very frustrating. Especially when he does things to hurt his sisters like a bloody nose, hitting, throwing things or biting. As a mom that is home with him 24/7 I feel like something is going on with him. Some days I am so desperate for a break but there is no one that offers to babysit him, can't say that I blame them. I did some research on ADHD to discover that he checked off on just about everything listed for a child under 5. I spoke with a friend of mine that has a son with ADHD and she told me that Caleb sounds exactly like her son! She said she also started noticing issues with him around the age of 2 but didn't feel like it needed attention until he went to preschool. I feel that if I take him to the doctor now I am going to hear the same things I hear from everyone else "AGE". Don't get me wrong Caleb can be a good kid. He can be the sweetest child on the planet when he wants to be. I have heard people comment on how 'mean' he is. I've gotten looks in public like "can't you do anything with your kid" and I really just want to look at them & say "No, I can't but your welcome to try." My daughters preschool teacher even admitted to me that she was nervous to have him in class.. not sure if she was joking or not?! Most days, by the time my husband gets home from work I am so exhausted & grouchy that he doesn't even want to be around me. I am in NO WAY the parent that tries to blame my child's bad behavior on something else, but I genuinely feel like there is an issue here. I am also not the type of mom that overreacts to small things or runs my kids to the doctor every time they have a cough. So, I ask you other Mommy's to give me your advice. Let me know what you think I should do and how I should handle this. You will not offend me, the purpose of this blog is for opinions of other moms. Thanks!!

As 2010 comes to an end....

I think back to all that happened this year. I have a lot of good memories as well as several bad. Here is a recap of my year:

• Witnessed my son having to undergo surgery to remove a cyst, as well as being hospitalized for pneumonia.
• Experienced a devastating flood. I hope I never see anything else like that in my lifetime!
• Went back to college for the 2nd time only to discover I still do not know what I want to do with my life... so I think I will stick to being a Stay At Home Mom for now (demanding enough career if you ask me)
• Bought my first mini van; something I swore I would NEVER own!
• Reached my goal weight (high school/pre-mommy weight) and proved to myself I could do anything I set my mind to....
• Then got pregnant with my 4th (and last) child. All that hard work down the drain!
• Got my heart broken into a million pieces when I lost my Grandpa.
• Had the biggest scare of my life a week later when my dad became sick & we thought we might lose him too.
• Found out the meaning of forgiveness & betrayal!!!
• Discovered a new hobby; BLOGGING! :)

Tomorrow is the last day of this year & I can only hope it's a good day. My dad will undergo surgery in the morning to have his defibrillator implanted. I pray that all goes well with that & I look forward to seeing what 2011 has in store for me!

All in a days work

My little terrorist is at it again! While trying to cook supper for me & the kids (because my husband decided to come home late from work to torture me) he kicked his sister in the nose. Blood was pouring EVERYWHERE! I rushed her to the bathroom to clean off the blood, try to see how bad it was & get the bleeding stopped, during all the excitement I forgot about my pot of potato soup on the stove. Needless to say, it burnt! While scrubbing the blood trail out of the carpet he then proceeded to break my lamp on my nightstand, glass everywhere! So now I have blood & glass to clean up while trying to keep him away from anything else he may possibly terrorize. Not to mention, the entire bottle of glitter body wash he dumped out in the play room & OVER HIS HEAD!! So much can happen in the duration of an hour. Never a dull moment around here!

Just Stay Little

Someday's I feel like raising kids is so demanding & I find myself saying "I will be glad when they can do more for themselves." That thought leaves quickly when they figure out something on their own, however. My son has practically potty trained himself, I'm so proud but at the same time I know he is growing up on me. My 4yr old wants to pick out her own clothes and dress herself now. My 7yr old asked me not to attend her Christmas party at school because 'she's too old for that now.' Everyday they become a little less dependent on me in some way. It's bittersweet. I stay so busy the less I have to do just makes my life easier but it also saddens me. They grow up too quickly. Before I know it, they will be grown and starting families of their own. I don't know how I will feel when I no longer have little ones at home. When they go to visit their grandparents the silence is depressing. I enjoy the quiet but I'm also counting down for them to be back home with me. When my husband and I have a date night the kids are always the topic of conversation. I'm excited for the baby to get here because I will have a tiny helpless being that is totally dependent on me for it's needs. Sadly, it too will grow up. I cherish everyday that my children are little. They sure don't stay little long. That being said, I am still getting my tubes tied after #4 arrives! :)

Such A Big Boy

I went to check on my 2 year old son because he was being quiet! That's usually a sign that he's up to something. I found him in the bathroom sitting on the toilet! When I walked in there he said "pee mom!" After sitting there for a few minutes he did pee! I haven't even started potty training him yet, I was going to start after Christmas. We got him a pack of underwear & a potty chair as a gift. I guess he's ready to potty train! I am so proud of my big boy! :)

Had A Bad Day

Yesterday was just not a good day for me! First, I went to the eye doctor to find out my RX had changed & my eyes have gotten worse & I now have an astigmatism. I need to wear glasses full time instead of just to read & night driving like before. Now, I just have to come up with the money to buy them because my insurance doesn't cover it. Too much always happens at Christmas. Secondly, I was lied to AGAIN by a person that keeps lying to me over & over! I do not know why I put any trust in this person & they would not be in my life at all if I could help it. I am so tired of being disappointed & let down because they just can't be honest. I will never understand why honesty is such an issue with some people. Lies take so much more effort, one lie leads to another that leads to another & so on! Priorities must be another issue because this certain person does not have them placed in the right order. Broken promises, lies, and excuses.. it seems to be on repeat! I feel like I keep setting myself up for it to happen continuously! I try to be the best parent I can be to my children because they are most important to me. They always come first, why other parents do not feel the same I will never grasp! I am just so fed up with the situation & do not know how to make heads or tails of what needs to happen! I have had regrets until I learned from my mistakes, then I understood that things happened so I could grow into a better person & learn lessons that I needed to learn. It's about improving what will never be perfect but at the same time not expecting someone else to be either. If only a few things could change I could be at peace with this bad situation I'm stuck in. Only time will tell, I guess.

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